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Mar 14, 2020. 4 comments

How to Help the Service Workers in Your Life Right Now

How to Help the Service Workers in Your Life Right Now

As more and more communities shut down non-essential services, and as people begin self-quarantining in higher numbers, a lot of workers are going to be forced to stay home without pay. If you’re among the lucky who can work from home (or you’re getting paid time off), and you can still afford that cleaning person or the dog walker, keep paying them.

Those who won’t be financially hurt by the...

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Mar 06, 2020. 1 comments

Create Your Own 'Parenting Posse'

Create Your Own 'Parenting Posse'

We like to say that it takes a village to raise a child, but sometimes that village looks pretty sparsely populated. We often don’t live in our hometowns, surrounded by extended family members and friends we’ve had since elementary school. Our attached garages allow for extra privacy from—and less interaction with—our neighbors. We rely, mostly, on ourselves.

What we all need, writes Alison...

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Feb 13, 2020. 1 comments

What Dwyane Wade Can Teach Us About Parenting an LGBTQ+ Child

What Dwyane Wade Can Teach Us About Parenting an LGBTQ+ Child

A clip of former NBA star Dwyane Wade talking to Ellen DeGeneres is making the social media rounds this week as a heartwarming example of how every parent should react if their child tells them they identify as LGBTQ+.

When Wade’s child, who now goes by the name Zaya and uses she/her pronouns, approached her dad and his wife, actress Gabrielle Union, about the change, they did three things...

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Jan 23, 2020. 12 comments

Make an Emotional Labor To-Do List with Your Partner

Make an Emotional Labor To-Do List with Your Partner

Biz Ellis on the One Bad Mother podcast calls it being “president of everything.” In a two-parent household, it is very common for one partner to take on the responsibility of all the little invisible tasks that can bog you down in the day-to-day.

If you’re the partner who carries the bulk of the family’s “mental load,” you know that it’s not just about who will cook dinner and who will clean...

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Dec 19, 2019. 3 comments

How to Support Families with Kids in the Hospital During the Holidays

How to Support Families with Kids in the Hospital During the Holidays

There are the hospital visits you expect—a planned surgery, for example. And then there are the visits you don’t expect—such as when you have to rush your baby, who was born with a congenital heart defect, to the emergency room just days before Christmas.

Carly McClure’s daughter, Joanna, spent last Christmas in the hospital. She’ll also spend this Christmas in the hospital. In fact, McClure...

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Nov 11, 2019. 2 comments

How to Choose the Right Doula for You

How to Choose the Right Doula for You

In 2019, it’s almost certain that any pregnant person with a smartphone and an Instagram account knows what a doula is (a non-medical childbirth support person, for any latecomers). A doula can accompany pregnant women through the transformative process of pregnancy, labor and postpartum. And there is evidence that a doula can provide both physical and emotional support, as well as a variety...

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Kate Rope Kate Rope Nov 02, 2019. 8 comments

How to Help a Family That Has a Baby in the NICU

How to Help a Family That Has a Baby in the NICU

When Tiffany Brosius was 26 weeks pregnant, her feet began to swell. But the 37-year-old Atlanta mother says she didn’t think too much about it. After all, swelling in pregnancy is common. But then it started to travel up her body, so Brosius went to her provider where she discovered that she was experiencing preeclampsia—dangerously high blood pressure in pregnancy. She was admitted to the...

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Meghan Moravcik Walbert Meghan Moravcik Walbert Oct 09, 2019. 8 comments

How to Support a Friend Who Has Lost a Child

How to Support a Friend Who Has Lost a Child

If someone close to you has ever lost a child, you know how devastating that type of loss can be—and how utterly helpless it can feel to those who love them and can’t ease their pain. While there is no “fixing” this deep of a loss, there are things that friends and family can do to support them as they grieve.

Author Kimberly Calabrese, who lost her daughter Paris at six months old, wrote the...

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Josh Ocampo Josh Ocampo Sep 03, 2019. 5 comments

How to Help Hurricane Dorian Relief Efforts

How to Help Hurricane Dorian Relief Efforts

Over the weekend, Hurricane Dorian wreaked havoc over the Bahamas, damaging 13,000 homes and killing at least five people. As of Tuesday morning, Dorian—which was recently downgraded to a Category 2 storm—is inching its way toward the coast of Florida; from there it’s expected to crawl up the coast and alongside Georgia, North Carolina, and South Carolina later this week.

“We are in the...

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Meghan Moravcik Walbert Meghan Moravcik Walbert Jun 11, 2019. 6 comments

Be a Better Conversationalist by 'Supporting' Instead of 'Shifting'

Be a Better Conversationalist by 'Supporting' Instead of 'Shifting'

The last time a friend told you how busy they’ve been, did you respond with “Omg, SAME”? If you did, you might be what one sociologist calls a “

conversational narcissist ,” and it could be damaging your relationships.

Human often sympathize with others by drawing on their own experiences. Got stuck in a traffic jam this morning? Let me tell you about the EPIC traffic jam I experience a couple...

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David Murphy David Murphy May 10, 2019. 12 comments

I Can't Get Gmail to Load and It's Driving Me Crazy

I Can't Get Gmail to Load and It's Driving Me Crazy

When the boss says “I have a problem,” my ears perk up. Lifehacker is fine; we haven’t been blown up by

PAM . However, Melissa can’t get her Gmail to load no matter what she tries—an issue that’s been plaguing her for months. It’s a peculiarity that makes me go “hmmmm,” since I never have issues loading Gmail.

Melissa didn’t write me an email about this, but to keep the reader-questions...

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Meghan Moravcik Walbert Meghan Moravcik Walbert May 01, 2019. 15 comments

How to Support Someone You Love Through Infertility

How to Support Someone You Love Through Infertility

About 10 percent of women have difficulty getting pregnant or staying pregnant, so chances are good that someone you love is facing or will face infertility. But if you haven’t experienced it yourself (or even if you did but your circumstances were different), it might be hard to know what to say or do to support them.

When I asked friends, family and the members of the Offspring Parent...

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Aimée Lutkin Aimée Lutkin Feb 01, 2019. 19 comments

How to Talk to a Friend Struggling With Their Mental Health

How to Talk to a Friend Struggling With Their Mental Health

When a friend is trying to open up to you about their depression, anxiety, or other mental health issue, it can be hard to know how to respond. We’ve come a long way, but there is still considerable stigma to admitting that you’re coping with mental health issues. If your friend is talking to you at all, they’re taking a huge step.

Writer Anne Thériault explained for Flare.com what it was...

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Michelle Woo Michelle Woo Oct 12, 2018. 10 comments

How to Support Someone Who's Had a Miscarriage, Explained By Redditors 

How to Support Someone Who's Had a Miscarriage, Explained By Redditors 

Close to 30 percent of pregnancies end in miscarriage, by one estimate. And yet so many moms and dads still suffer in silence. How do you support a friend or family member who has lost a baby? October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month, and in a powerful Reddit thread, people shared what you can really do to help.

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You may be sincere when you say “Please let me know if there’s...

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Aimée Lutkin Aimée Lutkin Jul 20, 2018. 16 comments

What Not to Say to Someone Who's Sick

What Not to Say to Someone Who's Sick

Getting diagnosed with a serious illness that requires a lot of medical intervention is an extremely stressful experience. There’s a lot to navigate, and as the friend, family member or even casual acquaintance of someone going through a difficult health scenario, you want to help ease the burden, not make it worse. Here’s what you should and shouldn’t say to someone who is ill.

Don’t Give...

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Dave Greenbaum Dave Greenbaum Dec 16, 2017. 18 comments

Xtra-PC Helps Non-Technical People Install Linux on an Old PC

Xtra-PC Helps Non-Technical People Install Linux on an Old PC

If you still have an old PC, you're in luck. A new Linux distribution based on Lubuntu will give any old PC a new lease on life, designed for non-technical users and optimized for popular web sites.

We covered some ways of

installing Linux on an old Windows XP computer before, but Xtra-PC makes the process easy for non-technical people—and it comes with a lot of popular stuff set...

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Patrick Allan Patrick Allan Nov 27, 2017. 8 comments

The Best Way to Reach Your Goals May Be Publicly Recording Your Progress

The Best Way to Reach Your Goals May Be Publicly Recording Your Progress

We’ve talked about

using the public to motivate you before , but a recent meta-analysis of 138 different studies and experiments suggests it may, in fact, be the best method for making any real progress toward your goals. How to Work Towards and Achieve Your Goals... In Public

Setting goals is easy, but working towards them, making life changes, and starting new habits is…

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Kristin Wong Kristin Wong Nov 15, 2017. 3 comments

Get Mental Health Help With the Crisis Text Line

Get Mental Health Help With the Crisis Text Line

When you're dealing with a crisis and feeling desperate, it's important to talk to about it. But it can be hard to open up or find someone willing to listen. The Crisis Text Line aims to make it a little easier.

The group offers free, 24/7 emotional support for young people, and it's as simple as sending a text. Trained volunteers are on standby to listen and help talk you through a crisis. ...

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Catherine Winter Catherine Winter Nov 03, 2017. 13 comments

How to Feed a Grieving Friend With a Meal Train

How to Feed a Grieving Friend With a Meal Train

The circumstances surrounding death are always a surprise. Even when it isn’t sudden, when it has been expected for weeks—months, even—there is always the shock of absence and loss, and the overwhelming feeling that comes with all of the details that need to be tended to while in the throes of grief. It’s in those moments that people tend to neglect their own well being, as self-care often...

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Eric Ravenscraft Eric Ravenscraft Oct 02, 2017. 14 comments

This List Shows When Nexus Devices Will Stop Receiving Android Updates

This List Shows When Nexus Devices Will Stop Receiving Android Updates

Reliable Android updates are a key selling point of Google’s Nexus line of phones. Even Nexuses have an expiration date, though. Now, Google has a published list of when you can stop expecting updates for your Nexus phone or tablet.

The list can be found here, on one of Google’s support pages under “How long your Nexus will get updates.” Currently the Nexus 5X and Nexus 6P are the safest, with...

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