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Meghan Moravcik Walbert Meghan Moravcik Walbert Jul 13, 2019.

Stop Using the Words 'At Least' to Comfort

Stop Using the Words 'At Least' to Comfort

When someone confides in you—about anything from truly awful to just an average shitty day—the next words out of your mouth should never, ever be: “At least...”

Whatever comes after “At least...” is minimizing at best and offensive at worst.

I’ve got such a bad cold. At least it’s not the flu.

I lost my job today. At least you get to have a break from working.

I had a miscarriage. At least you...

Abu Zafar Abu Zafar May 04, 2019. 17 comments

Be a Better Ally by Understanding What Ramadan Is All About

Be a Better Ally by Understanding What Ramadan Is All About

The Islamic holy month of Ramadan begins on May 6 this year. As an American-Muslim, I find that many of my non-Muslim friends and colleagues still don’t know much about it.

In the video above, I sit down with Aniqa Nawabi, Executive Director of the Muslim Community Network, to discuss the basics of Ramadan and its significance to Muslims around the world.

We address the misconceptions around...

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Nick Douglas Nick Douglas Feb 22, 2019. 21 comments

How Tiny Mistakes Cause Huge Disasters

How Tiny Mistakes Cause Huge Disasters

“If I was setting up curriculum at a university,” says engineer Foone Turing, “I’d make an entire semester-long class on the Challenger disaster, and make it required for any remotely STEM-oriented major.” Because, says Foone, the disaster was a lot less random or simple than people tend to think. In a thread of 102 tweets, which you can read in essay form here, Foone explains the real reason...

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Aimée Lutkin Aimée Lutkin Feb 16, 2019. 11 comments

How to Break Up With Someone Kindly

How to Break Up With Someone Kindly
Rejection WeekRejection sucks, but we all have to deal with it. Whether you’re the rejecter or the reject-ee, this week we’re providing a roadmap for handling rejection with grace. And look: If you reject our advice, that’s on you.  

Sometimes at the end of a relationship, we’re so sure we want nothing to do with the other person that we’re happy to scorch the earth with the break up...

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Aimée Lutkin Aimée Lutkin Dec 19, 2018. 6 comments

How to Increase Your Emotional Intelligence

How to Increase Your Emotional Intelligence

There’s school smart, street smart, business smart, but we tend to forget about feelings smart: emotional intelligence. Like your ability to think critically, your ability to read and express emotions can be developed. 

All exercises designed to gradually increase are abilities involve dedication, and that includes heightening one’s “EQ.” Author Justin Bariso writes for Inc.com that his new...

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Meghan Moravcik Walbert Meghan Moravcik Walbert Dec 13, 2018. 15 comments

Want to Raise Empathetic Kids? Show 'Em How it's Done

Want to Raise Empathetic Kids? Show 'Em How it's Done

My son asked me last night what I was going to be writing about today. I’d just been reading this piece in the New York Times about how parents can raise empathetic children, and it had struck a chord with me. As a parent, I desperately want to raise my son to be the sort of person who steps up when others are in need, but is that something I can truly influence?

“I’m going to write about how...

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Michelle Woo Michelle Woo Apr 26, 2018.

A Trick to Teach Kids Compassion

A Trick to Teach Kids Compassion

It’s easy to conclude that people generally suck. Don’t they, though? There’s the driver who cut you off, the lady who appears out of nowhere to swipe the last Costco sample off the tray when you’ve been waiting patiently in line, the “friend” who’s forgotten your birthday three years in a row. I get why we’d assume others just aren’t trying.

But this, of course, is a damaging outlook to take....

Kaitlin Ugolik Kaitlin Ugolik Mar 12, 2018. 2 comments

Science Just Got Closer to Finding Our Empathy Genes

Science Just Got Closer to Finding Our Empathy Genes

We often talk about empathy like it’s something we can all gain more of if we just try hard enough—like muscle, or a higher score in Candy Crush. But a new study out today provides new evidence for the idea that individual empathy differences are determined, at least in part, by genetics.

Why Empathy Is Your Most Important Skill (and How to Practice It)

TL;DR: Empathy is the most important...

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Kristin Wong Kristin Wong Dec 14, 2017. 5 comments

Good Problem Solvers are Curious and Empathic, Not Just Intelligent

Good Problem Solvers are Curious and Empathic, Not Just Intelligent

We all know that a high IQ is a desirable, useful quality. But beyond intelligence, your curiosity quotient and emotional quotient are important, too.

Harvard Business Review explains what exactly the curiosity quotient (CQ) and emotional quotient (EQ) are, and how they function:

…People with higher EQ tend to be more entrepreneurial, so they are more proactive at exploiting opportunities,...

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Kristin Wong Kristin Wong Sep 16, 2017. 17 comments

Walking in Someone Else’s Shoes Actually Makes You Less Empathetic

Walking in Someone Else’s Shoes Actually Makes You Less Empathetic

You’re supposed to walk a mile in someone’s shoes before judging them. But as it turns out, that doesn’t really help. In fact, we’re less empathetic to people who have endured the same troubles we have.

In a study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, researchers conducted a series of experiments that measured how compassionate people were toward other people who...

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Alan Henry Alan Henry Aug 31, 2017. 13 comments

The Remote Worker’s Guide to Office Etiquette

The Remote Worker’s Guide to Office Etiquette

Working from home, whether it’s once in a while or every day, doesn’t make you immune to the social weirdness that comes with other people. In fact, being physically removed from your coworkers can make communicating that much stranger. Here’s what you need to know to avoid awkward silences in chat rooms, flat jokes on conference calls, or just feeling isolated from the rest of your...

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Melanie Pinola Melanie Pinola Aug 20, 2017. 13 comments

How to Stop Other People's Emotions from Bringing You Down

How to Stop Other People's Emotions from Bringing You Down

Empathy isa terrific skill to have , but too much of it can leave you overwhelmed by others’ negative emotions. Here’s how to stop absorbing what others around you are feeling while still being an understanding fellow human being.

Why Empathy Is Your Most Important Skill (and How to Practice It)

TL;DR: Empathy is the most important skill you can practice. It will lead to greater success…

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Aug 19, 2017. 5 comments

Four Tips From Pediatricians to Teach Kindness to Kids

Four Tips From Pediatricians to Teach Kindness to Kids

Children are listening. During the election, messages of hate, fear and intolerance were propagated across different media and into communities. And the messages continue. While parents view and listen to these ever-present messages, alongside them are their children, hearing these same messages through a lens ill-equipped to discern the implications of negative stereotypes and incorrect...

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Patrick Allan Patrick Allan Aug 17, 2017. 9 comments

Develop Your Emotional Intelligence by Watching Great Television Dramas

Develop Your Emotional Intelligence by Watching Great Television Dramas

Who says watching TV can’t be good for you? A recent study suggests that watching top notch television dramas like Mad Men and The Good Wife can help you develop your emotional intelligence and empathy.

The results of the study led by researchers Jessica Black and Jennifer L. Barnes, and published in the journal Psychology of Aesthetics, Creativity, and the Arts, compared two controlled groups...

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Michelle Woo Michelle Woo Aug 17, 2017. 20 comments

What to Say Instead of "You're a Fighter" When Someone Is Very Sick 

What to Say Instead of "You're a Fighter" When Someone Is Very Sick 

There’s this thing we tend to do when we hear the awful news that people we know or admire have cancer or other dire diagnoses. We transform them into courageous warriors, ready to battle and conquer the forces of the evil disease. They’re suddenly heroes. Fighters. It can feel odd to them because just a bit ago, they were everyday humans, sometimes brave, sometimes scared shitless, trying to...

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Patrick Allan Patrick Allan Aug 17, 2017. 11 comments

Why We Love Listening to Sad Music

Why We Love Listening to Sad Music

Music affects our brains in all kinds of wonderful ways . Upbeat music is great for working out and classical music can help you focus, but even sad music has its perks. Here’s why we love listening to sorrowful songs, and why they deserve to be on your playlists.

Tuomas Eerola, professor of music cognition at Durham University, explains the three main reasons we like to hear sad songs. First,...

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Andy Orin Andy Orin Aug 16, 2017. 11 comments

The Importance of Empathy in Everyday Life

The Importance of Empathy in Everyday Life

In trying times is more important than ever to consider the feelings of those around you. We are all in our own bubble, with our own unique perspective on the world, and it is crucial for our personal development to understand how other people experience the world

Trying to understand other people’s experiences and perspectives is what we call empathy. There are, of course, the subconscious...

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Kristin Wong Kristin Wong Aug 16, 2017. 10 comments

Why You Should Recognize Luck’s Role in Your Success or Failure

Why You Should Recognize Luck’s Role in Your Success or Failure

You shouldn’t dismiss your hard work , but we all get the occasional lucky (or not so lucky) break. As useful as it is to focus on what you can control in life, there are a few reasons it’s worth recognizing the factors outside of your control, too.

“Luck Is What Happens When Preparation Meets Opportunity"

This quote, attributed to Roman philosopher Seneca, reminds us that we make our own...

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