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Mar 16, 2020. 3 comments

Now Is a Great Time to Choose a Healthcare Proxy

Now Is a Great Time to Choose a Healthcare Proxy

In the past few days, I’ve seen some terrible advertisements and articles telling you that you should get a will, right now, at this very moment. Because if the coronavirus doesn’t take you down, you’re definitely not going to live that 150 years you’ve been planning on! (Seriously, I saw that copy with my own eyes.)

And look, you should have a will. But freaking out and rushing to get one now...

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Jan 08, 2020. 8 comments

How to Write and Deliver a Eulogy

How to Write and Deliver a Eulogy

Processing the death of a loved one is never easy. Even if they were terminally ill and you knew they would pass away within a certain time frame, nothing can truly prepare you for dealing with the actual loss. And sometimes, not only do we have to process a death—we may also have to speak publicly about the person in front of a group of

people who are also in mourning .

Yes, being asked to...

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Dec 17, 2019. 7 comments

What Happens to Your Domain When You Die?

What Happens to Your Domain When You Die?

No matter how many sci-fi movies depict it, we’re not going to be able to achieve eternal life by uploading a digital version of our consciousness to the cloud anytime soon.

That doesn’t mean that you won’t leave traces of yourself behind on the internet. If you have a website or blog, it could continue for as long as the hosting site exists and your financial obligations to the site are met,...

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Lisa Rowan Lisa Rowan Dec 12, 2019. 5 comments

How Often Should You Update Your Will?

How Often Should You Update Your Will?

Writing a will is a lot to take on, mentally and emotionally. Not only does it make you confront your own mortality, but it also forces you to make big decisions about who you trust to handle your financial and personal matters after you’re gone. It’s a lot to take on, but it’s one of those to-dos that can afford you huge peace of mind once it’s done.

Once you’ve made a will, however, you...

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Dec 05, 2019. 15 comments

How to Make it Through the Holidays After a Loss

How to Make it Through the Holidays After a Loss

When you’re dealing with a major loss, it tends to affect most aspects of your life, whether or not you realize it. Sure, you expect to feel a pang of sadness the first time you go to their home after they pass away, or when you get excited about something and pick up your phone to call them, only to remember that they’re no longer going to pick up—but other times, grief can be sneaky.

Grief...

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Nov 27, 2019. 1 comments

How to Preserve the Tweets of Someone Who Has Died Before Twitter Purges Them

How to Preserve the Tweets of Someone Who Has Died Before Twitter Purges Them

Twitter just announced that it is planning to

free up usernames for inactive accounts . While that means that the coveted Twitter handle you’ve been eyeing might finally be yours, if you happen to grab it before anyone else, Twitter’s move comes with an unfortunate side effect: If someone you love is no longer around to use the service, their accounts might disappear, too.

While the Twitter...

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Meghan Moravcik Walbert Meghan Moravcik Walbert Nov 22, 2019. 12 comments

The Best Way to Break Awful News to a Kid, According to Reddit

The Best Way to Break Awful News to a Kid, According to Reddit

Breaking bad news to our kids is awful. A divorce, a serious illness, the death of a pet, the death of a family member ... there are all kinds of difficult things they will experience in their lives that we can’t fully shield them from. We have to tell them because if we don’t, someone else will; and it’s always better for it to come from us. But what’s the best way to break really bad news...

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Nicole Dieker Nicole Dieker Oct 23, 2019. 10 comments

How to Make Sure Your Online Will Is Legally Binding

How to Make Sure Your Online Will Is Legally Binding

If you’re using an online service like LegalZoom or FreeWill to create your will, don’t assume you can sign and store your will online as well. Print it out, have a notary present at the signing ceremony, and store a hard copy in a safe, secure place.

As financial columnist Paul Sullivan explains in The New York Times, many people don’t realize that online wills have an offline component:

But...

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Meghan Moravcik Walbert Meghan Moravcik Walbert Oct 09, 2019. 8 comments

How to Support a Friend Who Has Lost a Child

How to Support a Friend Who Has Lost a Child

If someone close to you has ever lost a child, you know how devastating that type of loss can be—and how utterly helpless it can feel to those who love them and can’t ease their pain. While there is no “fixing” this deep of a loss, there are things that friends and family can do to support them as they grieve.

Author Kimberly Calabrese, who lost her daughter Paris at six months old, wrote the...

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Nicole Dieker Nicole Dieker Sep 24, 2019. 14 comments

What to Do First With an Inheritance

What to Do First With an Inheritance

What would you do if you received a large amount of inheritance money? If you want to be financially prudent about it, the answer is nothing—at least, not for a year.

As Susan B. Garland explains in The New York Times, many people spend their inheritances faster than they expect by splurging on short-term pleasures and failing to plan for the tax burden. Garland quotes Susan Bradley, founder...

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Melanie Pinola Melanie Pinola Sep 16, 2019. 13 comments

What Can I Say That's Actually Helpful in Times of Grief?

What Can I Say That's Actually Helpful in Times of Grief?

Grief is awful, but it can also be awkward. If

someone you know is grieving , it can be hard to know what to say—or perhaps more importantly, what not to say—to them. Of course, your intentions are good and you want to make things better, not worse. Here’s what you need to know.

Dear Lifehacker,
This year has been a very difficult one for me. A close friend passed away and a few other people I...

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Meghan Moravcik Walbert Meghan Moravcik Walbert Aug 10, 2019. 7 comments

How to Livestream a Funeral

How to Livestream a Funeral

If you died tomorrow, how many people would feel compelled to travel for your funeral, and how far would they have to come? It’s now fairly commonplace to leave your hometown and move across the country or abroad, at least for a while, and to find your loved ones scattered across thousands of miles.

As much as we might want to travel for every major life event, it’s often not feasible....

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Elizabeth Yuko Elizabeth Yuko Jul 18, 2019. 5 comments

How to Transport a Dead Body by Plane

How to Transport a Dead Body by Plane

People

die every day —and yes, that includes when they’re traveling. It’s not something most of us think about when planning a trip, but for some, it’s an unfortunate reality. But what do you do if you’re traveling with someone and they pass away? It’s not like you can Weekend-at-Bernie’s them and fly them back on their original coach ticket—so what are your options?

In short, it depends on...

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Elizabeth Yuko Elizabeth Yuko Jul 04, 2019. 17 comments

Here Are All the Ways You Can (Legally) Dispose of a Dead Body

Here Are All the Ways You Can (Legally) Dispose of a Dead Body

So much of death is a mystery, between how and when we’re going to go, if there’s anything beyond the grave—you know, all the pleasant stuff. But while a lot of this is out of our control, there is one aspect of our impending deaths that we usually can choose: what happens to our body.

Sure, there are the traditional routes of burial or cremation, but there’s a lot more you can do with your...

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Nicole Dieker Nicole Dieker May 03, 2019. 14 comments

Should You Write Your Own Will?

Should You Write Your Own Will?

You know you need a will. Why not use one of those online legal services—or just write it yourself?

As professional trustee and executor Marguerite C. Lorenz explains, a DIY will may cause more problems than it solves:

For some people with complicated personal and financial lives, today’s complexities may not be fully addressed with a do-it-yourself service for wills and trusts. While many of...

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Nicole Dieker Nicole Dieker Apr 16, 2019. 11 comments

How to Manage Household Finances After Your Spouse Dies

How to Manage Household Finances After Your Spouse Dies

Few people want to consider what might happen after the death of a spouse, but it’s an inevitability that many of us will have to prepare for—and for widows or widowers who aren’t prepared, the period immediately after a spouse’s death can be a financial nightmare.

The New York Times has an in-depth guide to managing household finances after a spouse dies, starting with the advice to share as...

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Rebecca Fishbein Rebecca Fishbein Mar 25, 2019. 12 comments

How to Write a Condolence Note

How to Write a Condolence Note

It’s hard to know what to do or say when someone you know loses a person who was close to them. Grief is a scary and amorphous thing, and if you haven’t experienced it, reaching out can feel like overstepping a boundary or reminding someone of something they’re trying to forget.

But grief is as isolating as it is painful, and it is important to let bereaved friends and acquaintances know you...

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Josh Ocampo Josh Ocampo Mar 20, 2019. 21 comments

Stop Burying Your Pets in the Backyard

Stop Burying Your Pets in the Backyard

I buried my first and only pet when I was 7.

His name was Hopper and he was a rabbit. He lived a short life before ending up buried in my backyard. I learned this week that that was probably the wrong move, thanks to a story by veterinary anatomic pathologist Rachel Allevana on The Conversation.

Turns out burying your deceased pet raises a lot of environmental concerns, and may have adverse...

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Josh Ocampo Josh Ocampo Feb 27, 2019. 15 comments

How to Give Someone Really, Really Bad News

How to Give Someone Really, Really Bad News

There are bad phone calls, and then, there are really bad phone calls, like the ones in which you’re forced to give someone news that a loved one was in an accident, or worse—they’ve died.

On Twitter, author Naomi Alderman shared some advice from a doctor on this very task and why remaining clear is the most important thing you can do. What should you do when you’re entrusted to give someone...

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Alice Bradley Alice Bradley Jan 29, 2019. 11 comments

How to Tell if You’re Dying, With Cardiologists Chris Kelly and Marc Eisenberg 

How to Tell if You’re Dying, With Cardiologists Chris Kelly and Marc Eisenberg 

We spend a lot of time worrying about death: our own, and the deaths of those we love. This week we look at our deeply held fears and assumptions about dying and see if we can’t lessen some of our anxiety about it.

Listen to The Upgrade above or find us in all the usual places where podcasts are served, including Apple Podcasts, Google Play, Spotify, iHeartRadio, Stitcher, and NPR One. Please...

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